When I was younger, thinner and less cynical, it was easy to be a romantic fool. So, I would be lost in imaginary worlds of love, happiness and bliss at the drop of a hat (or the reading of all those useless meaningless quotes and one-liners that are nowadays re-emerged in a new avatar as pins and relatable posts and what-not). Who wouldn't love me? I was amazing back then! But the longer I continue to pile on years, kilos and - am I allowed to say - experience and wisdom, I realize that I am happier being single and that there IS a way to be happy and be alone. So here's how it has worked for me:
1) Love.
Believe in it. Find it wherever you can. In your family, in your friends, in religion, in the things that make you up. If you start to understand what Love is, in the biggest sense of the word, then you will find that you are never really alone and that if it is in your life, in any form, you can't be unhappy. Everywhere you turn around, there it is: love embracing you in a huge bear hug.
2) Have faith.
Have some faith that you're good enough for you. If you keep whining and build-up a belief that a you need a man who will come along one day, see you, believe in you enough, love you and save you, remember that it doesn't work that way. Men are just too human to be all of that. They too need to be saved once in a while and having too much expectation can only hurt. On the contrary, believe in yourself and embrace and celebrate the fact that you don't need a man in your life to survive. Don't wait for a 'knight in a shining armour'. Remember, a knight in a shining armour is a man who has not had his metal truly tested.
3) Like what you do.
It's simple. If you're sitting in an office or any other workplace or even your home hating every hour that goes by in a job / situation you can't stand, evidently you'll be wishing twice as hard for someone to whisk you away to something, anything else to preoccupy yourself with. Find something you're good at, do it well, and you'll find it hard not to be satisfied.
4) Go places.
See the world. There's so much of it anyway. The more people you meet, the more amazing adventures you go on, the more stories you will tell. Witnessing how hard or wonderful it is the way others live will teach you that finding one true life partner may not be the answer to all things and that soulmates come in many shapes and sizes. Interact with people. Human race is far more complex than the limited number of people around you. Knowing more people will only build up your confidence to identify the people you can get along with and the others that you might keep an arm's length with.
5) Fun, fun, fun.
Above all, the real secret to being happy and single? Have a ton of FUN - whatever your definition of fun may be. Enjoy your life as it is. Spend time with family. Go out and chill with friends. Do anything and everything you want to do. Create a bucket list and tick off as many things as you can. Don't regret, don't hesitate, go forth and enjoy yourself...Laugh. Whatever situation you may find yourself in, whatever heartbreak, get over it, laugh it off...if you're dancing your way through, someone just might dance with you.
